A Starter Guide To Build Self Esteem

In a tough envi­ron­ment, how do you stay calm, com­posed and main­tain your­self esteem?

Here are some tips you may want to con­sider as a starter guide to improve yourself-esteem.

Let’s imag­ine you as a Dart Board. Every­thing and every­one else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your­self esteem and pull you down in ways that you won’t even remem­ber or notice. Well, don’t just sim­ply let them destroy you, or get the best of you. You need to stand firm and do some­thing to keep your­self esteem high. To do that, you shall avoid fol­low­ing these dart pins?

Dart Pin #1: Neg­a­tive Work Environment

Beware of “dog eat dog” the­ory where every­one else is fight­ing just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative peo­ple usu­ally thrive. No one will appre­ci­ate your con­tri­bu­tions even if you miss lunch and din­ner, and stay up work late. Most of the time you get to work too much with­out get­ting help from other peo­ple and their con­cerned. Stay out of this; it will ruin your self esteem. Com­pe­ti­tion is at stake any­where. You need to stay healthy enough to com­pete; oth­er­wise your own health will get into the trouble.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior

Bull­doz­ers, brown noses, gos­sip mon­gers, whin­ers, back­stab­bers, snipers, peo­ple walk­ing wounded, con­trollers, nag­gers, com­plain­ers, exploders, patron­izes, snuffers and so on, all these kinds of peo­ple will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improve­ment scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Chang­ing Environment

You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes chal­lenge your par­a­digms. It tests your flex­i­bil­ity, adapt­abil­ity and alters the way you think. Changes can make life dif­fi­cult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help you find ways to improve your selves. Change will be there for­ever, your must be sus­cep­ti­ble to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience

It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when you expe­ri­ence pain. But don’t let pain trans­form itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each fail­ure and mis­take as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Neg­a­tive World View

Look at what you’re look­ing at. Don’t wrap your­self up with all the neg­a­tiv­ity of the world. In build­ing self esteem, you must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Deter­mi­na­tion Theory

The way you are and your behav­ioral traits is said to be a mixed end prod­uct of your inher­ited traits (genet­ics), your upbring­ing (psy­chic), and your envi­ron­men­tal sur­round­ings, such as your spouse, the com­pany, the econ­omy or your cir­cle of friends. You have your own iden­tity. If your father is a fail­ure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a fail­ure too. Learn from other people’s expe­ri­ence, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Some­times, you may want to won­der if some peo­ple are born lead­ers or pos­i­tive thinkers. NO. Being pos­i­tive, and stay­ing pos­i­tive is a choice. Build­ing self esteem and draw­ing lines for self improve­ment is a choice, not a rule or a tal­ent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you — “George, you may now have the per­mis­sion to build self esteem and improve your self.”

In life, its hard to stay tough spe­cially when things and peo­ple around you keep pulling you down. When you see your­self get to the bat­tle field, you will choose the right lug­gage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bul­let proof. It is the same thing applies to the life as well.

Life’s options give you arrays of more options. Along the bat­tle, you will get hit and bruised. Wear­ing a bul­let proof armor ide­ally means ‘self change’ — the kind of change which comes from within — vol­un­tar­ily. Armor or Self Change changes three things: your atti­tude, behav­ior and you way of thinking.

If you start to become respon­si­ble for who you are, what you have and what you do, build­ing self esteem will even­tu­ally lead to self improve­ment. Its like a flame that should grad­u­ally spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When you develop self esteem, you take con­trol of your mis­sion, val­ues and discipline.

A pos­i­tive way of liv­ing will help you build self esteem. Self esteem brings about self improve­ment, true assess­ment, and determination.

So how do you start putting up the build­ing blocks of self esteem? My answer is:

Be pos­i­tive. Be con­tented, Be Happy. Be appre­cia­tive and never miss an oppor­tu­nity to compliment.