Power Through the People

Have you come across a per­son who is so nat­u­rally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he’ll be friends with almost every­one in no time? We call such a people-person, some­one unbe­liev­ably nice and charis­matic that he can charm any­one into doing anything.

A socially-empowered per­son achieves so much great­ness, basi­cally because of the peo­ple that cat­a­pult him to suc­cess. He earns the trust and all-out sup­port of the peo­ple, whom he had helped before. He never runs out of help. He can do any­thing with the plethora of peo­ple behind him. All because he knows he max­i­mizes his social potential!

See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you will reach self-empowerment.

Self-empowerment is mak­ing a gen­eral over­haul in your life and turn­ing your­self into a hap­pier and more suc­cess­ful person.If you can be one of those people-persons, then I can’t see any rea­son why you will not suc­ceed. You just have to know how to get start.

1. Be Genuine

Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be gen­uinely nice and inter­ested to peo­ple. If oth­ers per­ceive that you are Mr. Hyp­ocrite with self­ish inten­tions, you might as well say good­bye to self-empowerment, and also lost your good friends.

2. Be the Great­est Lis­tener that You Can Be

To earn the love and trust of the peo­ple, lis­ten to their prob­lems and sym­pa­thize with them. Do not just hear them out, lis­ten to them with your heart. Make eye con­tact when the per­son talks to you. Lis­ten as if every word mat­ters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that there is a con­fi­dante in you.

3. Laugh Out Loud

I do not mean that you force your­self to laugh for every joke cracked by some­one, albeit you do not find it funny at all.This means find­ing humor in things and not being too darn seri­ous. A per­son ooz­ing with an awe­some sense of humor attracts crowds and even­tu­ally, attracts success.

4. Don’t For­get Yourself

In the process of flut­ter­ing around like a social but­ter­fly, you might for­get your­self and allow­ing every­one to push you over. Remem­ber, love and value your­self before any­one else. If you deem your­self respectable and wor­thy of affec­tion, peo­ple will flock to you and not tram­ple on you.

5. Do Ran­dom Acts of Kindness

You don’t have to do a John Rock­e­feller and blow your sav­ings to char­ity. Lit­tle acts of kind­ness mat­ters the most, and this can be as sim­ple as giv­ing some­one a sur­prise you-take-care card or help­ing an elderly cross the street. When we were kinder­garten stu­dents, kind­ness was taught to us and greatly prac­ticed. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.

6. Con­tact Your Old Friends

Sad how some friend­ships are des­tined to good­bye, but thanks to tech­nol­ogy, you can do some­thing about it. Relive the good old days by flip­ping your year­book and look for the great peo­ple whom you want to com­mu­ni­cate with again. Adding these old friends to your ros­ter of sup­port peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop Your Personality

Are you grouchy, grumpy and gen­er­ally morose? Whoa, you can’t go through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that per­pet­u­ally ham­per your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?

8. Be Confident

Be able to stride to the other cor­ner of the room and intro­duce your­self to peo­ple with that win­ning smile of yours. Just remem­ber: be con­fi­dent, not arrogant.

9. Prac­tice Control

When angry, don’t snap at any­one. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and col­lected. Be adult enough to take con­trol of sit­u­a­tion and trans­form your anger into some­thing more pro­duc­tive and pas­sive. As soon as peo­ple think your anger goes to vol­canic pro­por­tions eas­ily, they will find it hard to come to you.

10. Keep Nur­tur­ing Your Relationships

Your rela­tion­ship with your fam­ily, friends and sig­nif­i­cant oth­ers is too pre­cious that you must not neglect it what­ever hap­pens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Hap­pi­ness will never fly from your side as long as the peo­ple who mat­ter the most are close to you.

In the end, using peo­ple for self-empowerment means becom­ing a bet­ter and more lov­able per­son. It’s a win-win sit­u­a­tion: the peo­ple know they can turn to you any­time and vice versa.