Let’s be honest, in life, we all had our frustrating moments – you may have a pimple on your nose, your family members or loved one may calling you up and need you get involved in their affair, the funds may be low and the debts may be high etc. At times like these, you might feel discouraged or disheartened, and you feel unattractive.
When you find yourself in such situation, positive affirmations can only be the solution.
Understand this – when you feel miserable, it is hard to tell yourself that you feel great. So what should you do to get back your feet to the ground? How to ‘be attractive’ when you don’t ‘feel attractive’?
Feel Your Feelings!
Yes, don’t hold to it, let your feelings flow, feel your emotions. It’s all part of the human experience. Feel them all – angry, sad, excited, jealousy, despair, happy and more!
No matter under what kind of situation, no matter how you feel, your feelings bring important messages which teach you about yourself and your effect on others. It lets you understand you own value in a deeper sense. At the same time, it provides you with a road map for taking positive action.
For example, anger can be a positive guide for action: “I hate this job! So I’m going to find something better!”
As it said, the wellness of emotion is often defined as “the ability to feel and express the full range of human emotions and yet keep the ability to control them.”
The key here is feel your emotions but do control them.
Control Your Emotions
“Yes, I can control my emotions, it is not the problem,” you say, if you can really do it, then great!
Think about when was the last time you experienced a fight or argument with others, it might because the money you expected to get didn’t rolling in as you planned to get, or perhaps some of your relationships weren’t working out well. And there is a little voice inside your head screamed some form of obscenity at you, maybe something like, “You stink!”
Well, the truth is, you don’t stink. You simply might feel that way but in fact you are not. Most likely, self-pity and depression could join in your emotional beating. You just need to find the way get out from that road as fast as you can.
Get Out of a Slump
Let me share this quot with you first,
“Understand that you, yourself, are no more than the composite picture of all your thoughts and
actions. In your relationships with others, remember the basic and critically important rule: “If you want to be loved, be lovable. If you want respect, set a respectable example!” ~ Denis Waitley
Very well said Denis. Basically to get out of a slump, there are three general techniques you need to keep in mind – Not only do they work, they’re also a lot of fun.
Here’s what you can try the next time you feel unattractive:
1) Call on people who like you or love you
Learn to see what the people who like you or love you see in you (e.g. family members and relatives etc)
2) Focus on giving, instead of receiving
Ask questions like “how may I help you?” “What can I do for you’?” Do remember that you are in business to give, when you are in “a slump,” it can be too easy to moan that you are not “receiving” enough. At times like these, it’s helpful to shift your energy. Thus, if you are feeling unattractive, take your focus off from what you feel you aren’t receiving, instead of find someone to give to (e.g. give your time etc). When you give, the best of you can shin out. By connecting with others, you can make someone else feel better, and that’s very attractive.
3) Try something different
Try something new, for instance, adopting a certain subtle style of dress, don’t just go with the herd. listen to and learn from those who communicate well and learn to communicate in your way, or start a new habit, a new sport that you never do or experience before.
Finally, to be attractive, do work from inside out and not the other way around.