If you are working for yourself and you are the boss of your own online business, I am sure you are facing various advantages and disadvantages. On one hand, you don’t have anyone to tell you what to do. On the other hand, you don’t have anyone to give you that extra push or motivational support when you’re feeling down, as well as give you any sort of emotional support.
For a typical 9 to 5 job, you can complain to other employees about your boss, about how unfairly you’re being treated, or how a client or customer is being completely irrational etc, example.
But when you’re in the online business for yourself, you are the boss; you don’t have that face-to-face interaction with your employees or contractors. This leaves no one to vent to or to give you that motivational pep talk that you sometimes need.
So, what happens? Well, if you don’t be careful and don’t handle your emotions properly, you might let negative feelings build up – or even worse – you probably vent to yourself with negative self-talk, which is not good for you at all – not only does this negativity rob you of the precious energy that you need to make your business a success, but it also impedes your productivity and makes you feel just plain lousy.
If you’re feeling lousy and under negative thoughts condition, how can you ensure that your business will prosper and grow? How can you enhance business and personal relationships? Honestly speaking, you can’t.
The biggest problem (for most people) is that often time we don’t realize when we’ve fallen into the “negativity trap.” We mistakenly think that these negative self-talks are normal and they will motivate us do better work.
However, the true facts are – these negative self-talks are not normal and they are ultimately impeding our success.
So to determine whether you’re on a destructive path or not, take a minute to answer these questions as honestly as you can:
1. Do you ever criticize yourself when you make a mistake?
2. Do you believe that others are the cause of your negative and positive feelings?
3. When something good happens (like you have a new client or account) do you wonder if your good fortune will soon turn into bad fortune?
4. Do you tend to look at the positive or the negative side of things?
5. Do you think that you must do everything perfectly – or not at all?
6. Do you “scare” yourself into action by imagining horrible things that will happen to you if you don’t do something?
7. Do you believe that there are many things that you can’t do, even if you tried and put your mind to it?
8. Do you bend over backwards to please others – even at the sake of displeasing yourself?
9. Do you often feel helpless, like you’ve taken on too much or that you’re afraid to ask for assistance?
10. When someone criticizes your work, do you take it personally and think that there must be something wrong with you?
If you’ve answered “no” to all of these questions, then you are a powerhouse of positive thinking! Good for you 🙂