There are many reasons that can cause internal negativity, but they are share a general theme. Basically, internal negatively stems from the way we react to any given situation, here are few examples to further explain it.
Fear of Making a Mistake
The way you react to making a mistake can either strength your belief in your problem-solving skills or increase your negative views about yourselves. The difference comes from how you react to those mistakes.
Let’s say, if you make a mistake, do you admit to it or do you run from it? Do you view it as a learning experience or a reason to feel worthless? Do you see it as a part of everyday life or an inevitable happening based on your lack of skills?
Most of the time, how you handle mistakes is based on your past experiences. Did the people with the most influence in your life support you through your mistakes and see them as a necessary part of the learning process? Or, did they berate you and see the mistakes as an example of your lack of ability?
If your prior experience with mistakes resulted in shame, then you will naturally harbor a fear of making mistakes. While you may use this fear as a way to protect yourself, but it is actually a really form of negative self-talk that keep you from advancement and achievement. Think about that for a minute. If you are afraid to make a mistake, you will never try anything new, and you will keep yourself from discovering new opportunities and acting on great new ideas.
Fear of Rejection
Almost everyone, to some degree, harbors a need to feel be accepted. This is a natural feeling because when you feel accepted, you feel valued. However, this need for acceptance can become a source of negative internal belief when you feel this need so greatly that you fear of doing anything that may jeopardize your acceptance. If you reacted badly to a rejection in the past, this feeling can made things worse.
For example, a fear of rejection can force you to make bad decisions, especially in business. If you are afraid to lose the acceptance of a partner, client or customer, you may be too willing to go along with a bad idea. Instead of risking their rejection and stirring up negative feelings from the past, you will be more apt to stay quiet even though you see the error of their approach or plan.
Fear of Not being Good Enough
This source of negative thinking usually stems from your own misconceptions of how “good” others expect you to be. This misconception usually starts with a well-meaning parent or teacher who pushed you too hard when you were young, in many cases, they were only try to motivate you to let you do your best. And sometime you may have been doing your best but came away from the experience feeling “not good enough”, if you believe that others expect you to be the perfect one at all times, then even the most subtle failure could result in feelings of worthlessness, depression and anxiety.
By harboring this misconception, you force yourself to perform in a constant state of over-achievement. The desire to over-achieve can be great at times, however, due to perfection takes time, it can also take away from your success.
If you find yourself spending too much time on each and every decision or project, you could be robbing yourself of the chance to undertake or discover bigger and better opportunities. Since there no one can be perfect all the time, thus perfectionists are inadvertently setting themselves up for a fall. If you constantly hold yourself to this level of performance, you will eventually be disappointed. And, unfortunately, this disappointment can lead to an increase in negative thinking.
Fear of Not Being Able to Change
A few lucky people do realize the reasons behind their negative thinking. However, many of them failed to recognize that these reasons can be changed.
* “I have never been any good at this kind of thing.”
* “That’s just the way I am.”
* “I can’t help how I think or feel.”
Do any of these above statements sound familiar? These self-limiting statements stem from a fear of being unable to change. Its afford people an excuse for their behavior. After all, if it can’t be helped, then it can’t be your fault.
These statements can really limit you from achieving your true potential. If you believe the statements when you think about them, you will find you own reactions to them are almost always self-fulfilling. With these negative thoughts running through your mind, you are unable to accomplish the goals that you have been set up for yourself even if you really want to.
Beside above these internal sources of negative thinking, external sources are also play an important role towards to that, these sources can be easier to recognize but a little harder to control.
External sources of negative thinking always come from outside yourselves but their true harm comes from the way you react to these sources. Think about this for a minute. You cannot control the things that happen to you, or the people that you come in contact with, but you can control how you react to each of these events.
For example, if you are contemplating introducing a new product to your internet business but everyone you share the idea with has negative things to say, your reaction, you thoughts may start to change, you may withdraw your original idea.
Or, if you are about to undertake a new exercise program, but your spouse comments that you will never stick with it, your subconscious may believe him or her and your reaction to it just lose your motivation.
The examples show how a person’s comments can induce negative thinking, events can also have the same effect. For instance, you organized an event to introduce a new product but turns out it didn’t sell well, the results may cause you think negatively towards yourself and your business abilities.
Or, if you started an exercise program but didn’t see the results that you wanted, your reaction might be to fall into a trap of thinking it was your fault. Your insecurities could cause you to think things like, “I knew I couldn’t do it” or “Nothing I ever do turns out right.”
Things that are even farther beyond your control can also be a source of negative thinking.
For example, if you were laid off from your job due to downsizing, negative thoughts can begin from that event. Although the actual lay-off had nothing to do with you or your abilities personally, the event can still lead you to think negative things about yourself. One scenario would be to decide that you were cursed with bad luck. If you were to continue believing this, then you may shy away from new opportunities or automatically talk yourself into failing at your next job.
As you can see, each of these sources or insecurities can eventually lead to negative thinking. The key is to learn to recognize these insecurities and stop them before they can stop you.