No matter how often or how well you use your positive thinking skills, your outcomes can still got negatively influenced if you believe in the possibility of failure.
In order to use your newly learned skills to take your life and your business to the next level, you need to formulate a plan to banish thoughts of defeat. As with every other step in our previous posts, your goal to eliminate thoughts of defeat can be accomplished.
To make this happen you simply need to believe in your own powers, commit to learning the techniques and takes steps to follow through on the exercises.
To begin the process of ridding yourself of thoughts of defeat, you can use the following guidelines.
Stand Up to Defeat
This may seem like a simple step but it has enormous implications. By committing to stand up to defeat you take away the power of it’s mean. If you acknowledge the words and the thoughts as they enter your mind, but refuse to let them beat you, you change the effect they have on you. With this mindset the words go from being concrete predictors of failure to random words that have no lasting effects on your attitude.
Then next time that thoughts of defeat enter your mind, simply state out loud, “I will not be broken by thoughts of defeat.” Once you have repeated this enough times, your subconscious will accept the statement as fact and the words of doubt will lose their affect on you.
Eliminate the Word Defeat From Your Vocabulary
By engaging in a plan to eliminate the word from your speak, you can eventually eliminate it from your mind.
The first step to deleting this word from your thoughts is to replace it every time you use it in your speak or think it in your mind. While it is hard to replace the word with a positive word that holds the same meaning, you can replace the meaning that the word holds for you. To help you better understand of this exercise, review the following examples.
Example 1: Thought of defeat – My plan will fail.
Replacement thought: My idea may not turn out exactly as I have planned, but I am sure it will turn out at least as well, if not better.
See, you can acknowledge that a plan may fail without calling it failure. Instead, you acknowledged that the plan may not turn out the way you want it to but you changed the implications of that outcome by attaching a positive note to the result.
Example 2: Thought of defeat – No one will ever buy my product.
Replacement thought: While some people may prefer a different product than mine, I am sure that millions of other people will find my product useful.
In this example, you again acknowledge that the product could fail with some people. However, instead of viewing this fact as a sign of defeat, you can turn the words around to show acceptance for those who may not like the product and hope for those who will. Again, you have taken out the meaning of finality in the word defeat.
Example 3: Thought of defeat – I have never been good at selling people on my ideas.
Replacement thought: While I have had some trouble in the past convincing people of the merits of my ideas, I have improved my skills at this and I believe that this will be the time that I succeed.
Here you have acknowledged your prior shortcomings, but chose not to let them affect your attitude with negativity. Instead, you gave a nod to the past, accepted it, and then moved on. With this forward thinking statements you have reaffirmed your belief in a possible positive outcome and backed it up with new facts.
Another way to eliminate the word defeat from your vocabulary is to literally throw it away and vow to never speak or think it again.
The best way to do this is to write the word defeat down on a piece of paper. Write it down in big letters using handwriting that gives the word meaning.
Take a moment to study the word and all of the meanings it holds for you. Now, visualize yourself replacing those meanings with positive ones. Repeat to yourself that you will only allow the new meanings to penetrate your thoughts. Finally, crumple the paper in your hands and toss it in the nearest trashcan. You can do this exercise mentally using visualization, but you will find that it works faster and with more effectiveness if done physically.
Believe in Your Power to Succeed
This step falls into the category of affirmations. As you have learned in the previous posts, affirmations have a strong impact on the way that you think and the goals that you are able to achieve. Because of this correlation, you need a strong, persuasive affirmation in your arsenal of defeat-fighting tools.
Luckily, the most effective affirmation is also the simplest one. “I do not believe in defeat”. Sounds too simple, doesn’t it? But think about that statement for a moment. Repeat it out loud. Do you hear the conviction and finality of the words? These powerful words effectively eliminate thoughts of defeat. Why? Because you cannot possibly be affected by something you do not believe in.
Avoid Negative People Who Make Statements About Defeat
Of course, before eliminating any contact with friends, coworkers, customers, colleagues, loved ones or acquaintances, you first must try to change the affect their negative statements that have on you and your attitude.
However, sometimes these techniques do not work. For example, if the statement of defeat was made without any facts to back it up or suggestions for change then the statement cannot be turned into something positive. This rule also applies to statements made by people who are intentionally trying to hurt you. Since these comments are born of malice, there is simply no way to learn from them or use them as a resource. In either case, you need a plan to deal with these comments and the people who make them before they crop up.
The best plan is simple avoidance. By avoiding the people who make these comments, you can avoid the possible effects of it. Essentially, what you can’t hear can’t hurt you!
However, keep in mind of that this plan is not usually a long-term solution. Once you have realized your goal, strengthened your resistance to negative thoughts, or overcome the meaning of the word defeat, you can usually mingle with these negative people and suffer no ill effects. It is depending on your relationship with the comment makers, and your period of voluntary avoidance may be longer or shorter.
This plan sounds great, right? But, what do you do if the comment maker is your spouse, partner, boss or some other person that you literally cannot avoid? In a such case as that, it is best to use your earlier affirmation to stop them in their tracks.
Every time that one of these people utters words of defeat to you or about you, stop what you are doing, look them in the eyes and repeat the words, “I do not believe in defeat” in your strongest, most convincing tone. Yes, this simple statement will not stop them the first time when they hear it, however, if you continue repeating it in response to their comments, they will eventually get the hint.