Have you ever experience when all your doubts, fears and insecurities wrap yourselves up, you come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, many people think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than them, but when in the reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than you.
You look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Woooooh, what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes, I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me, I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”
Isn’t it funny? When you look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish you could trade places with them, but do you know they look at you and thinks of the same thing?
As human beings, we are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us, this is understandably. Many people suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because they are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and the interesting thing is you – of all people, is the last one to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking, in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say, which caused all of my other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she is around, the sad thing is she doesn’t even notices how badly she became socially handicapped that gradually affecting the people in her environment.
To improve yourself, one of the key things is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. You need to find someone who you find comfort in opening up with, even the most gentle topics you want to discuss, such as;
“Do you think I am ill-mannered?”
“Do I always sound so argumentative?”
“Do I talk too loud?”
“Does my breath smell?”
“Do I ever bore you when were together?” and so forth.
In this way, the person you talk to will know that you are interested in improving yourself. If he or she is a honest and trusted person, she/he will lend his/her your ears for comments and criticisms, he/she will not give answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!”
And do open up your mind and heart as well. In return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help she/he to improve him/herself.
Before telling other people about how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then can inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
In addition, stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer, if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self and stop comparing yourselves to others.
Remember that nobody is perfect. Almost every one is wishing for something, to have a better shape, better features, better body parts etc. But the life, by itself, need not to be perfect for you to be happy about yourself.
Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When you begin to improve yourselves, you then begin to feel contented and happy.