Self-esteem is the major challenge of our era. It lies at the heart of many of the diverse issues and challenges that we are facing in the daily life, especially in today’s fast moving world.
Because low self-esteem does not seem to be the problem, that’ why it is so precisely and it is very insidious. Many people are suffering from low self-esteem in which attribute their life challenges to wholly different causes, such as blame their problems on a mean boss, racial or a talent for choosing abusive love partners and so on. In this way, the problem is externalized.
So how to improve your self-esteem? The first thing you need to do is to understand the difference between self-image and self-esteem.
Self-image forms as a result of comparisons you make between yourself and those around you. It is the judgement you make of yourself – the image you have of yourself. It turn affects self-esteem.
Self-esteem, on the other hand, IS the heart of creating radical change. Think about when you talk to yourself, is it positive or negative talk? Self-talk is the prime cause for creating and maintaining self-esteem. The things you say to yourself in your mind, as well as the meaning you attribute to events in your life, combine to create the reality you end up living, all come from your thinking.
As Zig Ziglar said, “The most influential person who will talk to you all day is you, so you should be very careful about what you say to you!”
To reach to that “think & feel good”, I would like to share with you below these 10 commandments, it is written by Steve Goodier, which published in one of his marvelous books, Riches of the Heart.
Those simple, straight to the point inspiration message always make an impact. Also, they focus on such an everyday range of human fallacies and behaviors that one can immediately identify with the message
1. You shall not worry, for worry is the most unproductive of all human activities.
2. You shall not be fearful, for most of the things you fear will never come to pass.
3. You shall not carry grudges, for they are the heaviest of all life’s burdens.
4. You shall face each problem as it comes. You can only handle one at a time anyway.
5. You shall not take problems to bed with you, for they make very poor bedfellows.
6. You shall not borrow other people’s problems. They can better care for them than you.
7. You shall not try to relive yesterday for good or ill, it is forever gone. Concentrate on what is happening in your life and be happy now!
8. You shall be a good listener, for only when you listen do you hear ideas different from your own.
9. You shall not become “bogged down” by frustration, for 90% of it is rooted in self-pity and will only interfere with positive action.
10. You shall count your blessings, never overlooking the small ones, for a lot of small blessings add up to a big one.