You might heard many times people say that “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at changed.” I wonder how many of you read that and decided to put it into action. It works, it works not just on situations, it works on people too!
No, no, I didn’t mean you should try to change a person, it is an impossible thing to do, we all know that. What I mean is this works not because you set out to change someone else; it works because you change your perspective, your mindset. In the other words, you literally change what you are seeing and what you are looking at changes right before your eyes.
Opps, I can see you now with that ‘yeah right’ look on your face, your face is saying ‘Is this just another new age mantra thingy that sounds good but doesn’t apply to real life?’
No, not so – I promise, if you dedicate yourself to changing the way you look at something that you want to change – it WILL change.
However, you do need to know and clear what or who in your life do you really want to change first.
* Do you want more attention from your spouse?
* Do you want to be treated with more respect by your boss?
* Do you wish your bank balance would go up not down? etc.
All of these things, and more, are within your ability to carry out, and the only person who needs to show up and make the effort is YOU.
But if you don’t believe in yourself that you can do it, then you may want to stop reading right here because no matter how hard you try, nothing will happen for you, it is only going to work for you till you believe it.
You know, everything you process through your brain is filtered through your own unique perspectives. When you learn to stop and take a look at something you are not satisfied with, you will find that you have the power to change your perspective and create a new experience. It’s really that simple.
Let’s do this – think of your lifetime of experiences as a big patchwork quilt where each person, emotion, and experience (in or out of your control) is added, sure, not all of them pretty. When you were child, your quilt is small, but when you become an adult, your quilt is quite large and you have so many patches that you can’t count them all. By that, you get comfortable with them, but much of the time you don’t notice it – it’s like a wall that you know is there but you aren’t really aware of it, and the comfortably made you forget to do and to create new things.
So what to do then? You can change your perspective, your attitude and start to remove the patches from your quilt and replacing them with new ones. These new patches are put there deliberately by you – only put your most favorite colors and patterns there, only the ones that make you feel good to the touch. This is the time for YOU to in charge of constructing your quilt of perspectives, and you get to choose what you want to see in it.
For example, to get more respect from your boss, look at your quilt and replace the patches that say “I am lacking in respect” with “My boss pays me all the respect I need.” or “I am grateful to have a boss that showers me with so much respect.” The most important thing for this is – mean it, feel it, and project it, because to let it becomes strong and permanent, this new patch needs reinforcement at the first place.
Another example, to work on your bank balance, you will need to replace all the patches that say “I am broke, I don’t have enough, I can’t afford it, I live paycheck to paycheck, money is the root of all evil, I’ll never get ahead, etc.” with “I am thrilled with my income, I always have more than enough, money is neither good nor bad – it is neutral, I enjoy being rich.”
Let’s face it, most of us have money issues, so even it needs you to continuing find patches that need replacing or from time being, as long as you be persistent, it’s worth it!
Basically you can apply this to almost any person or situation in your life. As I mentioned earlier, your experience is 100 percent filtered through your quilt of perspectives, your perspective, your attitude is all you can really know about anything, once you realized that and when you change it, your world changes. Once you get that, you will learn to appreciate and use the power you have – when you change the way you look at it, and then you will see your life will get changed at no time.
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